I’ll take a summer hiatus with a side of change, plz

As you may or may not have noticed, I accidentally took a hiatus from writing. Whenever this happens, I start to get antsy about writing again, because it is truly my outlet. A lot happens each summer, but especially this summer – it has been a major time of change in my life. Pretttty much everything changed, actually — most of which I plan to catch you up on.

But first I want to just talk about change for a minute, because I’ve experienced a lot of it lately and it can really be overwhelming. I am pretty accepting of change. I hate to feel stagnant, so I urge change quite frequently.

Over the course of your life, you will change, change and change again. But, it is important to remember that no matter what change comes about, you have the power to walk away if it does not suit you. Never allow yourself to be in the passenger seat of your journey. It is yours, remain an active participant. It is kind to please others but never in the dispense of yourself.

I urge you that when you are going through change, to look at who you are, and where you want to go. Ask yourself if the change in your life supports your core values, your vision for your future, and also your wellbeing. And if there is any doubt in your mind that what has just come along will hurt who you are in any way, it is completely fair to stand up and respectfully walk away.

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.”

Brené Brown

Don’t you worry child

“My life has been full of terrible misfortunes most of which never happened.”

Michel de Montaigne

Same. Studies say that 85% of things that we worry about, never happen. I had heard that before but never really paid attention to it, or did anything with it. Recently, I decided to test it out. Each time a situation came up that made me anxious, I made a cognitive decision to let go of that stress, until the situation is right in front of me. It was crazy to see how many of these instances I could have spent time worrying about, never even happened! I actually had a hard time believing it at first, and just decided I was #Blessed. While I do feel fortunate in my life, that’s not it at all — it is simply true that majority of these things we get so worked up about, are just our imaginations creating situations that likely may never occur.

I challenge you to also try this tactic, let go of initial worries, and see if the situations you would have been stressed out about even end up happening. Create more space for happiness and peaceful thoughts, rather than cluttering your mind with negativity and stress.

“Rejoice in the things that are present; all else is beyond thee.”

Michel de Montaigne

Cheers!